I signed up for SA about a month ago.
I am well above average in looks and intellect. I am a genuinely nice guy and have conducted myself in a respectful and gentlemanly fashion with every woman I have chatted with on SA. I have never brought up sex or made any type of unreasonable demand. I am not married, so I am not relegated to sites like this out of a need for discretion. I was drawn to this site simply because I liked the thought that it would be upfront and straightforward. I have absolutely no problem finding dates in the real world or with doing very well on traditional dating sites. My only shortcoming is that, like most successful people, I am desperately short on free time. I figured that the lack of frustration that this site promised would be worth paying an allowance to a nice young lady.
Boy was I wrong!
I have probably sent 30 introductory messages to different women that I found interesting and attractive. I can see beauty in a wide range of women so I by no means limited myself to the hottest of the hot. Less than half even bothered to write back. Okay, that's fine. I am really only looking for one person. Certainly this level of response is typical of other dating sites. I did expect a little better response on SA given that I was offering to substantially improve someone's financial situation, but no matter.
Of the people that did write back, most couldn't be bothered to write more than a line or two. This despite my sending a multi-paragraph, well thought out introductory email. One girl and I texted back and forth for a day or two. She was fairly new to the site but claimed to have already entered into an arrangement with someone. She was unhappy with it and bitched about the guy at several points. Again, I was polite and respectful to her throughout our interaction. She eventually just stopped bothering to respond by text. To be fair, I'm not the kind of guy who is going to fill up your inbox. If I send you a text, you can respond. It's that simple. I'm not going to send a followup if I haven't heard back from you. Again, here is a fantastic catch offering to sort out your financial life, you can put a little more effort in to hold up your end. Is that an unreasonable expectation?
Two girls I have emailed with for several weeks. We both seem to be on the same page as far as what we are each seeking and had agreed to get together. That's when the run around began.
One is a university student who always appears to have the most jam-packed schedule. Really!? I went to university. I never had more free time than I did IN university. She has bailed several times on tentative plans all the while claiming how much she is excited to meet me. There is always some good reason that the 4 alternate dates I propose don't work for her.
The second girl just vanished for a week and then sent me an email claiming she took an impromptu trip and had lost her cell phone while away and could not email. I resisted the temptation to tell her that computers were a fantastic alternative to smart phones for sending and receiving email. For that matter, the SA site would have been a viable option. Prior to her unplanned departure, she had bailed on a firm meet last minute claiming some unforeseen obligation.
So there you have it. A real account by a real person. Lest you think I am afflicted by some serious flaw that renders me an undesirable candidate, I can assure you I am most definitely in the upper quartile of men on SA. I am late 30's, well over 6 feet tall, fit, have all my hair, and am well above average in looks. You also know from reading this far that I have the brains to express myself in a literate and respectful fashion. I have not yet turned myself into a mogul, but the allowance I have offered is funded and well within the stated aims of the majority of posters to the site.
I am going to put the money to use elsewhere. As I said, I have no impediment to traditional dating other than time. Perhaps I will hire myself an assistant to free up some time instead and get out in the real world and find some non-flakes to spend time with.
Given that the majority of female posters on this forum seem to suggest that SA is populated by lecherous old men looking to score $80 sex in a sketchy hotel room on the first date, you would think that someone (myself) who is none of those things would stand out like a red rose at a manure processing plant. I can only conclude one thing; the majority of these profiles are, for whatever reason, not posted by real people looking to fulfill their stated aims. If my conclusion were false, I can assure you I would be much too busy right now to be writing this missive for you all to read!
If you like looking at pictures of attractive women, this is your site.
The ONLY thing this site will be good for is the aforementioned "Pro"
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