Seeking Arrangement is the largest dating website for those seeking mutually beneficial arrangements ? i.e., a relationship between a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Mommy, and a Sugar Baby.
Seeking Arrangement is designed to meet the needs of those seeking mutually rewarding arrangements. Seeking Arrangement understands that their members need privacy as well as a secure dating environment. As such, their website maintains and upholds a strict privacy policy. To further protect their members, all profiles and photographs submitted to Seeking Arrangement are screened for relevancy.
Costs
A Seeking Arrangement free membership offers you lots of possibilities. To get full acces to several features on the website, you will need a Seeking Arrangement account upgrade. The Seeking Arrangement price for an upgrade via Seeking Arrangement is $30 for 30 days. For 90 days, you can pay Seeking Arrangement the amount of $84.95 via Multicards.
Contact
The Seeking Arrangement contact email address is: [email protected]
Nothing Other Than A Total Money Scam!
This is not a Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby website by any stretch and I was on it for over 3 years. It is nothing more than "welfare-seeking" site for a lot of unemployed women-of-color and low-rent white trash. Most of the women (used very loosely here) are requesting either weekly or monthly allowances - up to and including total "financial domination" meaning you pay for everything in their lives from rent to medical bills). You can't imagine what "women" will ask for and even want you to guarantee - which includes several hundred $$$ just for you to be "screened by them to see suitablility" on the first encounter.
Even more ridiculous: Women want you to send them money for no sex, never meet, and just to talk on the phone.
Brandon Wade, the owner, said recently in an WSJ article that he was "checking into" the prostitution possibilities of this site (LOL!). Who is kidding who???
Don't waste your money!!!
I suggest they change the name to "Seeking Losers."
Pros
Lots of "choices"
Cons
It is 99% prostitution.
Got scammed
I got scammed on this website many times that I had to report it to the police .
Majority of men are only looking for sex.
Be realistic , if you want money you can be an escort.
If you dont want to have sex , you can be a cam model
Do not use this site
Seeking Arrangements is a Colossal Waste of Time & Money
I am an attractive 30 year old lady with no criminal record. I found the men to be really annoying and only want to chit chat over the computer, or worse yet, get your phone number and then start asking for pictures. I never did meet anyone from this site even though everyone wanted to text or email. So I got frustrated with the amount of men looking for pictures and sexy talk but never wanting to meet out. I reworded my profile specifically stating that I was NOT interesting in chatting a bunch online or exchanging tons of text messages. Then SA chose to leave my account under review for a few weeks. Meaning I could not really communicate with other members but still had access to my profile. So I had to email the company and ask about my account. SA said that I was looking for an "on line Only" type of dating and that that behavior was against the companies morals. WHATEVER!! Can SA even read English???? My profile clearly stated otherwise. Needless to say after over 4 months of having a profile on this site (mind you I had to pay even as a female, ITS NOT FREE FOR LADIES) I asked SA not to bother wasting my time further and just delete the account. I clearly do not need to spend my money or waste my time with "Sugar Daddies" only seeking "spank bank material".
Pros
NONE
Cons
Waste of Time
Waste of Money
Men are only looking for virtual relationships for free
it is not what I thought it is.
this site is not a dating site. It is a site where men come and look for prostitutes and I am not a prostitutes. All men contacted me and met me required me to have sex with them for the budget they willing to paid me. It is has very little to do with companionship. It is all about having sex with ugly men that cannot get lay without paying for it.
Pros
NOne
Cons
it is where men looking for hookers.
The Whole Website Is A Scam
SeekingArrangements is a scam period. The whole website is a scam.
There are a few surefire ways to know if the website is scam. If you can slip in contact information onto your profile and specifically say you can't read or send messages (because you don't want to sign up for something that you have absolutely no idea is legitimate or not)....AND NO ONE ever contacts you directly, then you know most if not all of the profiles you are seeing are complete scams.
I've done this on a few sites and the ones who actually flag you and say you can't do that are either A) legitimate because they really want you to go through them and their clients are real OR B) they are even bigger scammers because they are monitoring everything you do. Hard to prove which but then word of mouth from others comes in handy.
From what I see, SA is a complete shit-scam. Not a single woman has reached out to me directly even though my information is on there. Obviously it's not my actual info as I need to be discreet but still it's a way to get a hold of me.
And no, "women are afraid of doing that" doesn't fly. Plenty of them do on other sites like CityVibe, etc...so this is BS.
Pros
Nice looking site
Cons
It's a scam, it's expensive, and no one ever writes back directly.
Be realistic, every one
First of all, I would say I'm sorry to all because my English sucks, I don't live in a English speaking country.
I'm 22, female, single, have a bachelor degree and a stable job. I come from a good family. I consider myself as pretty, hot (long legged, C-cup, super long long hair and I know how to dress). Everyday I have many guys try to pick me up, and a lot of them are older men. The reason I joined SA is simply that I'm extremely curious. I also have a freelance job as a writer for a cosmo magazine, so I decided to create a profile on SA to "investigate" a bit and have materials for my writing, and most of the info is real, except my eye colors and my height, in case someone recognize me in real life. I posted some pics of myself with not very clear face, just show my body (full clothes, of course). The 1st day, tons of mess came into my mailbox. Most of them claimed to be millionaires, some are married, some are divorced, and most of them are aboard. Some guys are dreamers who thought this site is a 18+ forum, they asked me to exchange nude pics. Lol, it was ridiculous. Some guys are business men, CEO in financial institutions. They are coming to my countries for business, then they inbox me to have some "dates" and always asked "what do you expect/ what is your financial expectation?". Well, I didn't come here for a real SD-SB relationship, so why not pretend? I told them I'm need 200$ for a date and after meeting up, I will decide if we could intimate. Few guys refused immediately, and a few accepted as they described me as gorgous. Then I decided to meet only one guy who seemed very nice and older than my dad (OMG, dad, I'm sorry, I know it's super weird to meet a stranger from the internet). He is a business man from LA. After having dinner together in a 5 star hotel, he gave me an envelop. I took it with a smile and said thank you. Then we left to go out for a walk because it was only 8pm. He hold my hand in public and we acted like a real couple. PPL stared at us, it was awkward. Then he said "You r really pretty and I like you alot. Do you want to spend the night with me?". Sorry all the SB who are reading, but at that moment, I felt I was very cheap. I don't judge you for what you did. But from my own feelings, I felt hurt, I felt it was simply a transaction. So I told him I never had sex on 1st date but I really enjoyed the meal, I also liked him and "if you feel it's such a waste of time, i will give you the envelop back". But he said I did not need to do that, we could meet tomorrow, then I went home. Yes, it was 500 USD for real. But he was like a rare diamond. You know, he's probably one of the few guys in SA who is that generous and nice. However, i didn't meet him again because I had to spend time with other guys for more material for my writing.
Second time, I met a local guy who is only 35. It was kind of risky, he did not send any photo, he claimed to be mega rich, he didn't say anything about himself except his name. Anyways, i felt he was an educated guy based on our conversation and then, we met in a luxury restaurant. He ordered a private room and when I came, the staff took me to the room. And when I came in, I was like what the fuck. He was on many magazines I had read. Yes and sure I knew him, he absolutely super rich and he was married, everyone know that. He is a decent looking guy, not handsome but he know how to dress. I pretend to not know him and we introduced ourselves. He was an arrogant guy and although he did not speak out, I knew he regarded me as a product. I was not mad, who could blame him, right? I just wanted him to express all of his rude, his real feelings for my material. There was no flirting, no emotion at all. We talked about our jobs, and as an educated woman, I was able to hold the conversation even when he talked about his business. He was kind of impressed and gradually showed more respect. I asked him about his experience on SA. And he told me, he had mistresses aboard who$ he met on SA, and some other girls flew from other countries to see him. Lol that was crazy, u know, some ppl were rich, they just did whatever they wanted while his wife never knew. I left the dinner after 2 hours talking. I told him I had something to do at home. He said he wanted to see me again, maybe this weekend. He never mentioned the finance because after talking to me and looking at me, he knew I was not depressed for money, i can make it by myself. He said "I know you want some adventure and I am absolutely good at it". The thing he never knew is that I had recorded the whole conversation and next month, we will have a shocking article about cheating from the internet and dating sites. Of course ppl will never know it was him. I just recorded the whole things in case they said i made up the story.
So hey girls, sugar daddies do exist. It is just your task to seek for the real sugar, not the salt. If you are truly beautiful, elegant, smart and upfront about your expectation, it would be possible. But the thing is short term, long term or just casual sex, you have to find the right guys who want to sponsor and mentor you, or just fooling around with sex.
Pros
Easy sign up, user friendly, many millionaires for real, free for female
Cons
Scammers every where and some only looking for one night stand
This is store front for online prostitution.
Many ugly and not attractive women on this site. Over 75% are career prostitutes which include all the college students. There are single mother that are full-time prostitutes from 18 to 50's on this site. I am surprise any one over 40 still working as a prostitute. The single mothers I heard all have loose pussies , so from giving birth to mostly bastard children. Since welfare is only available for a short time nowadays many of these women cannot depend on welfare like before the welfare reform days. They do prostitution to feed their bastard children. Most of them will tell you it is their first time being an online prostitute which is easy to claimed if they keep making new fake profiles on SeekingArrangement.Com and MissTravel.com plus 3 other online prostitution websites that all belong to the same owner.
I am so disappointed with all Brandon Wade's fake dating websites. Some of these women are out of their mind wanting that much money????? They are only average looking women with tons of makeup. After the makeup comes off you see the real face = not worth the money...........................................
I met one lady that lied about her age. She claimed to be 10 years younger than her real age. She couldn't even pass for less than 5 years younger than her real age. I paid to have dinner with her and got her true name by seeing her driver's license. I finally found the right person with online people search, Beenverified. I found out her true age and she has long criminal history of shop lifting, prostitution, fraud , and shop lifting............................
To make this story short. 8 out of 10 women I met on this site has criminal records.................. You men had to be careful who you are dating...............
The next date was at my place and stole my check book and used to purchase stuff online. She didn't know my billing address which is not my condo address, so that 4K she tried to steal from me didn't work. She tried to ship the items to a vacant house from what I found out...................................
Pros
None. A big waste of money.
Cons
You meet mostly sleezy, low class, uneducated women, and average looking women with tons of makeup........................... Most are career prostitutes having sex with as many men as they can hook on sugar daddy websites.
Yuk!! I am so embarrassed I didn't know I dated so many prostitutes out in my community.
Most of these women = prostitutes think they got their men hook, but the truth is they are prostitutes and prostitutes are replaceable easily.................
It is sick that teachers are coming on to these sugar daddy websites to make ends meet. I am a single man and would never date a married woman out, but there are married women that are sugar whores on this website.
I also met a below average Asian lady that looks at herself all the time in the mirror , in the windows' reflection, and takes picture of herself with a selfie stick non stop. After her makeup came off I wanted to run fast. She looked very old.
I couldn't believe what she was telling me. She mainly have sex with married old white men for money, then I realized she also lied about her age to me. She didn't look the age she claimed. She looks more like in her 40's than in her 30's . I had dated many Asian women before in college and I have an idea how they age. I am not saying she has wrinkles, but she definitely cannot pass for 30's
This is store front for online prostitution.
Many ugly and not attractive women on this site. Over 75% are career prostitutes which include all the college students. There are single mother that are full-time prostitutes from 18 to 50's on this site. I am surprise any one over 40 still working as a prostitute. The single mothers I heard all have loose pussies , so from giving birth to mostly bastard children. Since welfare is only available for a short time nowadays many of these women cannot depend on welfare like before the welfare reform days. They do prostitution to feed their bastard children. Most of them will tell you it is their first time being an online prostitute which is easy to claimed if they keep making new fake profiles on SeekingArrangement.Com and MissTravel.com plus 3 other online prostitution websites that all belong to the same owner.
I am so disappointed with all Brandon Wade's fake dating websites. Some of these women are out of their mind wanting that much money????? They are only average looking women with tons of makeup. After the makeup comes off you see the real face = not worth the money...........................................
I met one lady that lied about her age. She claimed to be 10 years younger than her real age. She couldn't even pass for less than 5 years younger than her real age. I paid to have dinner with her and got her true name by seeing her driver's license. I finally found the right person with online people search, Beenverified. I found out her true age and she has long criminal history of shop lifting, prostitution, fraud , and shop lifting............................
To make this story short. 8 out of 10 women I met on this site has criminal records.................. You men had to be careful who you are dating...............
The next date was at my place and stole my check book and used to purchase stuff online. She didn't know my billing address which is not my condo address, so that 4K she tried to steal from me didn't work. She tried to ship the items to a vacant house from what I found out...................................
Pros
None. A big waste of money.
Cons
You meet mostly sleezy, low class, uneducated women, and average looking women with tons of makeup........................... Most are career prostitutes having sex with as many men as they can hook on sugar daddy websites.
Yuk!! I am so embarrassed I didn't know I dated so many prostitutes out in my community.
Most of these women = prostitutes think they got their men hook, but the truth is they are prostitutes and prostitutes are replaceable easily.................
It is sick that teachers are coming on to these sugar daddy websites to make ends meet. I am a single man and would never date a married woman out, but there are married women that are sugar whores on this website.
I also met a below average Asian lady that looks at herself all the time in the mirror , in the windows' reflection, and takes picture of herself with a selfie stick non stop. After her makeup came off I wanted to run fast. She looked very old.
I couldn't believe what she was telling me. She mainly have sex with married old white men for money, then I realized she also lied about her age to me. She didn't look the age she claimed. She looks more like in her 40's than in her 30's . I had dated many Asian women before in college and I have an idea how they age. I am not saying she has wrinkles, but she definitely cannot pass for 30's
Good for What It Is
Seeking Arrangement is a sugardaddy dating site. That means that girls are looking to make money for hanging out with guys who have some money. If you understand and accept that, the site is not that bad. I found that, as a reasonably attractive male, I could go on there, set the allowance amounts to something reasonable, and find a huge array of women.
The trick of being successful as a guy on this site is to have rules and be upfront about them. There are a lot of women who get on the site and want to be paid hundreds of dollars just so you can buy them dinner. If you are like me, you do not need to pay for friends. You may, on the other hand, be willing to use money as a social lubricant to make dating faster and weed out competition, right? So, my rule, which I had to explain far less often than you might expect, was that I would be happy to meet and buy dinner and what not, but if she wanted cash and stuff, then we had to be on an intimate/sexual level.
Now, some girls will immediately start calling you cheap and act insulted like you called them a prostitute. In reality, these girls would have milked you for every penny they could squeeze out of you and offered nothing in return. My response to all that is to ask her if she thinks I am anything more than an ATM. If she is not willing to invest something of herself in you, why would you do the same for her? So, even if she's the most beautiful woman you have ever seen, do not cave in and agree to pay her just to hang out with you. There are lots of other women who will understand how it works and will be much more worth your time.
Of course, this brings up the opposite problem you will encounter: the actual prostitutes. They may not even realize that they are doing it, but you will find girls who are willing to trade sex for money with little or no getting to know each other before it happens. If that does not make you feel weird, then the minute they start talking about all of the other guys they are doing that with probably will. You cannot always tell who is going to be this way, and a few obviously snuck by me, but I recommend as soon as you find out you should cut ties. She could easily end up getting arrested and you could get dragged down with her (yes, police have been known to run stings on SA), and you also should probably be worried about things like diseases and raising other guys' babies, etc.
With all of these caveats out of the way, I will say that I have had marvelous success on that site. I've used it off and on for over 10 years now. If I am getting out of a long relationship, I find it is a great way to kickstart the process of getting back out in the dating world. I sign up for a month, easily meet 3 to 6 different girls, and can probably count on getting intimate with about 8 out of 10 of them. It might just start out as a fun fling, but a few have actually turned into longer term relationships, and many required no payment or allowance of any kind. Of course, most of the people willing to put themselves out there to date guys for money probably have a few scars and they invariably pop up at some point and can kill a budding relationship.
For example, met a girl, hit it off, things were great and we were using the scary "L" word with each other. Then it all went wrong because of issues with her parents that made it difficult for her to trust love. So she told me that although she loved me she was going to go back on SA to find a guy to hook up with for money for a new apartment. When I offered to give it to her myself, her logic was that owing people you love messes things up, so it was better to have sex with a stranger. Needless to say, I disagreed and that was the end of it.
Now, ladies, having met quite a few women from the site, I can say that you will likely encounter emails from a few creeps. Just as anywhere else in the world, there are people who will want to hide behind the Internet to indulge all of their fantasies and feelings of inadequacy. There will be picture collectors, there will be guys with strange desires, there will be guys the age of your father or grandfather, there will be married guys, and there will be the guys who look nothing like their photos. It is just like any dating site, though perhaps a bit grittier because of the connotation of the site. But, if you do not let that bug you, the site can be rewarding for you, as well. You can meet someone (like me) who just wants to spark up a little romance without the headaches of regular dating sites and doesn't mind helping you in the process. Really, sugar daddy dating is (at least to my mind) what regular dating should be: two people who like and care for each other and provide for one another's needs. Nice, right?
So, to sum up: have realistic expectations, and the site can be amazing. But, it requires that you be smart about your interactions and ready to move on to the next person if things are wrong.
Pros
-Easy to meet large numbers of women
-Helps you avoid the headaches of normal dating
-Money acts as a "social lubricant" to facilitate intimacy
Cons
-Have to be smart to avoid being scammed
-Most people will be a little damaged, making true relationships harder (though not impossible)
Avoid and use a concierge service
Most of the women on here are nothing more than spoiled brats expecting an anatomically challenged, life-size, Ken doll that shoots American Express Cards out his rear when patted on the head. They all expect something for nothing, and would not dare step out of their comfort zone for less than the Throne of England. Most profiles expose a resentment of men in general and an insecurity or dissatisfaction with being a woman. After exploring thousands of profiles, most of these young women are not capable of understanding the theme behind "Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory".
Gentlemen, if you want a SB, do the same thing you would do if you wanted a trained, knowledgeable, experienced, companion for a single event or a professional, trained, service provider for something a little more discreet--use a concierge service. Your time, money, and security are too valuable to waste here with those who would not appreciate or understand what you offer.
Pros
Approximately 10% could be real assets to your life.
Cons
The 10% are difficult and time consuming to vet.
SA is BS
I wish I had read all the reviews about this sight. everything I have read up to now is true. They say its free for women that's a lie I had to pay for premium membership to even be heard. Every guy is looking for a model and half of them definitely don't answer when they find out you are afro American This website is a waste of time and I will make sure they don't charge my card again. I have been on for three weeks and nothing I am a average built women with curves 49 years of age. I am not 19 - 25 which seems the age these men want. This sight should make that clear before taking money. I am writing to warn women don't use this sight its bogus. I have been a sugar baby before for 15 years so I know the ropes. This is not the way to go. Live and learn
seeking arrangements sucks
was on the site for 2 mths. lots of riffraff, fake photos fake names huge expectations of payment. after chatting with 185 very nice guys for upto 2 wks they finally said what the wanted; minimum 750 PER HOUR for avg joes to maximum 5000 dollars PER HOUR for internet perfect guys just to spend time with them. i even email relayed with 2 riffraff that said because i sent even one response email i was locked into a meeting within 7 days or theyd contact SA and FBI saying i was a pic collector who was invading their privacy as american citizens and would be banned and charged and "at least we'd meet in court"??? NEVER chat NON-GOLD VERIFIED MEMEBERS which make up 99.9% of the site. they are a waste of time.
NEVER SEND MONEY TO ANYONE VIA WESTERN UNION WHICH IS WHAT YOU WILL BE BEGGED FOR CONSTANTLY BY NON-GOLD MEMBERS.
protect your identity as best you can or you can be threatened into doing what you shouldnt do - sending money to riffraff strangers who make threats. and why should the threats stop if they got money out of you one time? protect your self by using prepaid credit card/giftcard which you pay cash for and use fastfood wifi only and a vpn for emailing. SA blocks vpn's for accessing the site. use a new email address and never give out your real email address or phone number, and skype sugerbabies one way till your sure you found the right person to meetup with. after alot of disappointment i cancelled my account however, 6mths later im still getting winks and "you have a new message" email notifications from sugerbabies on my alternative email address. beware the sugerbabies.
Pros
lots of beautiful people
Cons
99.9% are fake scammers
Not best reviews yet..
I've been on the website for a about 2 weeks now and have received quite a few a messages but they are definate issues I'm having. First, the majority of the guys pay for a premium membership so their messages won't be screened but don't get paid to get verified. Maybe one out of 10 guys will even have a picture and some aren't willing to even send you one because "the internet is forever and they need to be discreet". Obviously I'm not going to go meet with a stranger that I don't even know what he looks like.
Others are very arrogant and basically just want you to come sleep with them on the 1st date and if you say your not a prostitute and not willing to come have sex right away they want to get an attitude.
Some are just into some weird 50 shades of grey stuff and worse and I wont even get into that.
The benefits of the site may be that everyone can be upfront about what they want, but personally I am not a prostitute, I am just looking for a non-commited relationship where theres benefits. But I cant agree to these guys that have no respect and have an expectation for me to come sleep with them at their houses when i don't know them, we've messaged only a few times, or in some cases, they wont even show you a pic, bcuz besides of moral issues, most of them think they're 30x sexier than what they are just because they have money and girls tell them what they want. So, I am yet to find someone that has tried to get to know me or doesn't just want to say what they want from sex...
Pros
Openness about what each other expects.
Not totally commited relationships.
Cons
Creepy old arrogent men.
Shady men.
Mostly married men.
Why I consider SA a scam
My comment refers to the UK site.
1) It says in FAQ that standard members can view messages - in fact you can't even view who sent the message;
2) All messages are MANUALLY checked, censored and modified - indicates low traffic through the site;
3) Some faces were familiar from other sites - I found them, contacted, explained the reason, asked their opinion on SA -not a single response;
4) Pictures sent from someone posing at the site had no digital signature - means they either came from the Web or were edited.
Verdict: don't pay any fees and don't waste time.
Pros
Many nice (albeit not real) profiles
Cons
You have to pay for everything.
All messages are altered.
Ladies: Do not waste your time
I'm a very good looking woman in a metropolitan, wealthy area of the US.
Lots of poser SDs on the site. If a guy is even slightly good looking, he wants free or super cheap sex. SA does a horrible job .... all men should be required to have a background check and pay to be on the site. Many are on site for photo collecting, seeking cheap or free sex, or just for attention. Received many "winks" and exchanged a few emails...then nothing, lol. What a joke. The site is inundated with men just looking for an email response from a woman because they cannot get attention any other way in the real world. Maybe it is just American men....which are known for being cheap assholes around the world....especially those born after 1965.
Pros
none
Cons
poser Sugar Daddies galore
cheap old guys waste of time
Full of cheap ugly old guys, collected photos and skype details of girls to boost their ego.
Some guys their are charmless and lonely and want a wife a trophy wife but they dont have the funds or chatm to get it.
A lot of guys want sex chat or to meet for sex in a hotel.
Lot of guys want you to travel to them, with no allowance so thry expect you to take time off work to visit them
I have always dated hardworking guys who have suported me with money and emotionally and they were very charming guy just normal working class guys.
But guys on this site are meant to be millionaires or very rich and they are hunting for a bargain price with sex with a young girl.
Waste of time girls, safe yourself for someone who will give you his best, not crumbs
Pros
No pros just a unless site was there for a month and wasted time talking to fakes and cheap guys looking for sex
Better off dating a guy your attracted to for love and he will do hus best for you, might not be rich but you will be safe and happy
Cons
Full of creepy guys oooking for cheap sex but they want a playboy model
A lot if them are uninteresting and charmless
I think they joined because they can not find anyone to be with them unless they paid.
Its a great concept but not run correctly, guys should have to verify their income and less than 1000s a month should not be an allowance option
Full-on Scam
I reluctantly joined for a month and even bought the background check. This is what they do:
Set up bogus accounts with pictures and descriptions of great women. Send you "winks" from these women - who don't live in your home state.
I didn't get a single response from members who lived near me and I live in an area where most men over 30 are married or have huge beer guts.
Cons
Ripoff
@Flakey Girls Reviewer, SA Burn Ou
What do you expect from 18 and 20 somethings, maturity??? LOLOLOL. Try dating someone around your own age or a little older. You get seduced by younger women's looks, you get burned. Pretty simple, isn't it??? Grow up already.
Pros
I don't know
Cons
I really don't know
Flakey Girls
I signed up for SA about a month ago.
I am well above average in looks and intellect. I am a genuinely nice guy and have conducted myself in a respectful and gentlemanly fashion with every woman I have chatted with on SA. I have never brought up sex or made any type of unreasonable demand. I am not married, so I am not relegated to sites like this out of a need for discretion. I was drawn to this site simply because I liked the thought that it would be upfront and straightforward. I have absolutely no problem finding dates in the real world or with doing very well on traditional dating sites. My only shortcoming is that, like most successful people, I am desperately short on free time. I figured that the lack of frustration that this site promised would be worth paying an allowance to a nice young lady.
Boy was I wrong!
I have probably sent 30 introductory messages to different women that I found interesting and attractive. I can see beauty in a wide range of women so I by no means limited myself to the hottest of the hot. Less than half even bothered to write back. Okay, that's fine. I am really only looking for one person. Certainly this level of response is typical of other dating sites. I did expect a little better response on SA given that I was offering to substantially improve someone's financial situation, but no matter.
Of the people that did write back, most couldn't be bothered to write more than a line or two. This despite my sending a multi-paragraph, well thought out introductory email. One girl and I texted back and forth for a day or two. She was fairly new to the site but claimed to have already entered into an arrangement with someone. She was unhappy with it and bitched about the guy at several points. Again, I was polite and respectful to her throughout our interaction. She eventually just stopped bothering to respond by text. To be fair, I'm not the kind of guy who is going to fill up your inbox. If I send you a text, you can respond. It's that simple. I'm not going to send a followup if I haven't heard back from you. Again, here is a fantastic catch offering to sort out your financial life, you can put a little more effort in to hold up your end. Is that an unreasonable expectation?
Two girls I have emailed with for several weeks. We both seem to be on the same page as far as what we are each seeking and had agreed to get together. That's when the run around began.
One is a university student who always appears to have the most jam-packed schedule. Really!? I went to university. I never had more free time than I did IN university. She has bailed several times on tentative plans all the while claiming how much she is excited to meet me. There is always some good reason that the 4 alternate dates I propose don't work for her.
The second girl just vanished for a week and then sent me an email claiming she took an impromptu trip and had lost her cell phone while away and could not email. I resisted the temptation to tell her that computers were a fantastic alternative to smart phones for sending and receiving email. For that matter, the SA site would have been a viable option. Prior to her unplanned departure, she had bailed on a firm meet last minute claiming some unforeseen obligation.
So there you have it. A real account by a real person. Lest you think I am afflicted by some serious flaw that renders me an undesirable candidate, I can assure you I am most definitely in the upper quartile of men on SA. I am late 30's, well over 6 feet tall, fit, have all my hair, and am well above average in looks. You also know from reading this far that I have the brains to express myself in a literate and respectful fashion. I have not yet turned myself into a mogul, but the allowance I have offered is funded and well within the stated aims of the majority of posters to the site.
I am going to put the money to use elsewhere. As I said, I have no impediment to traditional dating other than time. Perhaps I will hire myself an assistant to free up some time instead and get out in the real world and find some non-flakes to spend time with.
Given that the majority of female posters on this forum seem to suggest that SA is populated by lecherous old men looking to score $80 sex in a sketchy hotel room on the first date, you would think that someone (myself) who is none of those things would stand out like a red rose at a manure processing plant. I can only conclude one thing; the majority of these profiles are, for whatever reason, not posted by real people looking to fulfill their stated aims. If my conclusion were false, I can assure you I would be much too busy right now to be writing this missive for you all to read!
Pros
If you like looking at pictures of attractive women, this is your site.
Cons
The ONLY thing this site will be good for is the aforementioned "Pro"
Unsure
I've only been seeking an arrangement for a week now, and I am just as new to the site itself.
I am a male sugar baby seeking a Sugar Momma; so far on the site I don't see a great deal of women who don't seem to qualify as such (Sorry if you're broke, you're just a cougar, not a Sugar Momma... Second, I'm being contacted by lot of extremely attractive women, but they are "Female Sugar Babies" not Sugar Momma's... are they thinking I indicated "Sugar Baby seeking Sugar Momma" on accident?
Anyways, I guess I'm really hesitant to purchase the upgrade for enhanced communications as I'm not sure that there are legitimate Sugar Mommas on the site.
Pros
Cleanest Site, Friendliest User Interface, Overall Most professional/secure feeling site.
Site assists in making it very clear what both parties are expecting.
Cons
Seems to be a few attractive/legitimate Sugar Mommas, but then too, it seems it's literally always the same 2 or 3 that have logged in on the site in the last several days.
meh not worth
I will say as a black women i do think it is significantly more difficult to find a SD but when i first started using the site, i found a legit SD who was a millionaire within a month, but he was also black. I was 19 at the time we were together for about 6 months until i found him to be to controlling and had to leave. but since him i've found it extremely difficult to find another one. particularly since there are so few black men and the white men seem to have a preference for white, after all they are old and grew up in a different era lol. honestly it was nice getting all that money but meh if you don't really need it, i don't recommend going through all the trouble of searching through the trash to find one rare diamond
Pros
if your lucky to find a real SD can be fun
Cons
hard for black women
have to deal with unfit old guys
a lot of guys looking to just get over
randy559820 is rude man.
This guy wrote to me this:
apparentky you are very shallow individual that would rather chat about dogs then the real reason you are on this site..
GROW UP!!!
when i wrote this on 13 February, 2013 13:39pm
I am not feeling so easy about this.
I asked you about dogs but you completely ignored, only telling me about fun whatever.
I am not an escort.
bye.
He wrote this on 13 February, 2013 10:05am
if seriously interested in having fun being spoiled rotten then please send additional photos to [email protected] and call 248.417.9478
when i wrote this upon looking at his profile photo with dogs on 13 February, 2013 09:42am
Hi, so you have dogs?
I have a sliky terrier named Romeo and coton de tulier named Aria.
Cons
There are many rude losers in this site. It is as if they are here because they cannot have normal relationship in other situation.
It's not that bad....is it??
I'm a guy. Not rich, just reasonably well off. I've had mixed results with the site, but compared to other sites I find myself always coming back here. I'm sorry to hear about the girls that have had such bad experiences, but guys have some problems also. I've been in 3 good arrangements from the site over the years, with an arrangement that was good for both of us with regular meetings, an allowance, and so on. I've also been burned badly by so many girls on there that I have had to adopt a policy of never fronting money. Yes, ladies, the name of the game is sex. There are guys out there that will offer lots of money for dinner and a smile but they are few and far between. You come to the site because you are looking for money, guys come to the site because they are looking for sex. Many of us don't want the impersonal "escort" type of thing. If we were we could get that and get it a lot cheaper. We want something beyond that. A mutual understanding and respect can go a long way. Make sure everyone is on the same page, lay out the arrangement in detail, and then live up to the deal and things can go quite well.
Pros
Nice selection
User-friendly layout
Cons
Unable to do a refined search until you have signed up for a paid membership.
Superficial Men Only
That's right...from the other side of the coin I can say that I could only find superficial men in this website, who truly believes that the woman are there to be a kind of luxury's hooker.
This is a beneficial relationship website, for real people who wants to have someone to share their lives with, but without all the drama and helping each other, not for old guys in shape, and many times not in shape, auction a playmate coming directly from your favorite porn channel.
Come on man, at the age of 45-60 yrs old, thats really what you want? To have someone with a perfect body, but nothing inside, and that it will literally let you die by yourself?
The truth is that there are hookers everywhere, not only at seekingarrangement.com, but there are also girls, like me, sick of having abusive relationships with regular guys and thinks that someone with money will treat us better, all bullshit, fucked ilusion!!
Pros
- A chance to meet someone, who will like you and help you to get a path in life [ Bullshit].
Cons
- Only old-old guys looking for commitment.
- Young guys and couples looking for orgy.
- Men thinking that is a website of luxury's hookers.
- Superficial men looking for playboy girls.
- Lots of hookers selling a night.
- Lots of Porn-Stars looking for a bargain.
Not worth the trouble
I been on this site for less than a few months and I can already say, this isn't for me.
Ran into a few men on the site. As everyone can already tell its a good amount of real decent men and ALOT of cheap scumbags.
I been on a few dates but didn't really have a connection with them and if I did, they were looking for something else such as a quickie in a car or hotel room sessions. But I can honestly say one of the worst experiences I had was with a guy I met who lived in the DC area. Who seemed legit and nice at first so we exchanged a few emails and talked on the phone. Long story short after talking for a month or so we decided to finally meet up and he wanted me to stay at his place for one weekend. After I do he takes me out shows me a good time and later that night we sleep together. On the last day of me staying at his place he wanted to fool around. Me always being safe I asked did he have protection. Later to find out he doesn't. I tell him since I barely know him we can't go unprotected. With me saying that he seemed to be in a bad mood and started moping around the house. Before he was going to take me home he was going to take me shopping like he promised (I never asked him for this he insisted) but because he was in a bad mood he said he wanted to take me home. I felt a certain way but respected his wishes. He later went to the bank to give me the money that we agreed on and took me home. Later that week I get a text from him BEGGING me can we not use protection. Now even with people my own age or someone I'm being serious with I'm ALWAYS safe. No excuses. (And quick side note the money that he gave me once I counted it was short of what we agreed upon) so I mentioned to him, " listen if we don't use protection we have to get std test and such to both be safe" before I could finish he was VERY ecstatic and excited to seeing me even so far as to picking me up after work and getting birth control. I mention to him before he got to carried away that I wanted the amount that we both promised and upfront. With that...a whole different person emerged. He was claiming I was being greedy and selfish and that we shouldn't have to take a std test. Along with saying that he doesn't want to pay me that amount anymore. I respectfully say "ok" and that if this is so we "need to wear protection still until we get more comfortable with each other"........lets just say this. Once I mentioned the condom again...he didn't like it. He later went on to say he wasn't desperate and that I'm selfish and greedy and that he's not interested anymore. All I could do was sit in shock....did I say something wrong?? (I'm being sarcastic -__-) so because I wanted to be safe and this would only be our second time sleeping together, I'm selfish?. I responded with a "dont have time for this and goodbye"It was very backwards to me and I never texted him again.
I apologize for the long review but I just wanted to tell my story. Not all men are as rude like this but there are a good handful. I've finally decided this site isn't for me and that I'd rather work long hours than constantly dealing with bullshit. Not trying to down the site or people but again...isn't for everyone.
Best advice I can give: stand your ground and know your worth. A lot of these men will only treat you a certain way only if you LET them.
Pros
Few good guys hard to come by though
Cons
Con artist
Fakes