If you are lucky

If you are lucky

Its entirely down to luck that you happen to get in touch with a woman who is actively seeking partners. Its best that she is relatively new, still finding her feet, and still interested in the potential for sex.

Once she has settled in for the long haul she will either turn to exploiting any angles she learns to use; or simply doze off and become one of the many dreamers who clutter up the site.

The women who you are most likely to be successful with tend to be transients. They will use the site for a limited period of time, have real affairs and then just as mysteriously as they arrive, they vanish back to their married life. Having proved that they still can and will do it if they need to.

Those that remain are sex workers, gold diggers, site commission seekers, dreamers, feckless dabblers, revenge seekers and those who unfortunately have mental health issues.

Obviously staying on the site to find new partners can become expensive. Creating false id's and such like doesn't really help. You still need to get out and find those women and they will only be ready when it suits them. That unfortunately is entirely down to luck that you coincide with their visits.

Give it a go if you can afford it. But to be honest you have more likelihood of meeting women if you join an amateur activity, voluntary or charity organisation. Women prefer to find men in their element.

The site is no worse than any other commercial site. They all have techniques to get customers. IE does have some genuine women on it.

Pros
If lucky and you make the right effort you will do okay.

Cons
The collections of those mentioned as being the ones to avoid.

I have to agree with these wise words largely.Having been on & off for a couple of years it really does boil down to luck.The only thing I would add, is to try to get on there at different times of day. You do meet people who can only get on at certain times.
Having met a number of ladies you'll be lucky to find anthing that lasts, as odd bloke said, most just have a go then slip back into their married life... or finish their marriage and find a single guy.
I shouldn't say this... but...... get a few on the go and hopefully you'll end up with one or two in the short / medium term.
And yes..... ladies do lie! Even if they don't realise it themselves. Just take it with a pinch of salt & get out of it what you can - women do!

You say the site is no better or worse than any other commercial dating site. Maybe true, but no other site charges anywhere near IE's ridiculous fees.

Derek, ie is not the most expensive agency out there, but is probably the most well known on the net. but they charge what they charge. There's not much we can do about it.

Tony. That's right, when it suits the women they get exactly what they want just as soon as they need it. Guys need to work every possibility just to find a few hopefuls. But that's how it is in real life anyway.

There are some real drongoes and you can feel them giving up on you within seconds of making contact. the most annoying are the ones who take you through a lengthy and quite genuine series of chats and then dump you at some point before meeting you. Its something you usually don't see when talking to a live person, but so evident when using the internet.

Actually I produced an all out heartfelt honesty profile on my last visit, and got a few encouraging compliments on its merits and worth. but that doesn't necessarily work either. I think it is something which cheating women don't want to know about.

The danger of creating a killer profile is that it gets known and could be recognised for its uniqueness by someone who knows you closely. ie the wife.................

I think what works is anonymity, discretion, responsible irresponsibility, careless fun; anything really which transports them away from their drudgery at home. So one needs to work at being an entertainer and host more than anything else.

At some point they will bonk you. And they come in a variety of wants and needs in that department. But be prepared for something anywhere between what could bore you in a day and something you can't handle, or keep up with.

But guys all you get is a woman. Usually its just a bog standard female of the species. So a perspective on reality is essential here.

So its no different from real life. The only thing; is it worth your 150? Well only if you are lucky on that day she sets her sites on you. But its not worth it to alert several dozen women into not being interested in you.

You get what you pay for in this world.... not that IE is fantastic, but its the best of a bad bunch. Where does £150 go these days anyway? A room is £60 if you book ahead.... cheating ain't cheap!
Have to agree being a cheeky chappie & laying off the full on approach works best. But there are a number that are happy to meet ...."the can if they want to brigade"... lead you on for a bit of attention then fizzle out.
I do have to say, that if you are not fussy there are a number of ladies who are probably somewhat larger than when they married..... their hubbys not interested anymore.... so if you've got a pulse you'll probably score!
Lets be logical.... a stunning looking woman won't need the internet to find an affair.
Nice tip about the charities & local clubs, will look into that!

In the last session I met up with one who is totally wrong for the ie site. She was just using it to start a conventional relationship. So you need to look out for those ones at the moment.

There was a divorced, separated and singles club in Lewisham years ago, and that was packed with women at weekends. A good place for a pick up, if they liked you. The kind of club with about 6 bouncers in penguin suits. It was probably run by villains. But the women gathered there and on some nights you were outnumbered by them. So that kind of place is where to find them.

What I noticed was that by hanging out there you could see the new intake each week, as a fresh batch came in. obviously word got about and they talked and pulled their mates along to the club. For a while it was a cheap and decent night out.

When I worked in a charity there were several women there, one of whom I had a long running affair with. But you'd need to invest time and effort in sussing out their availability. Another option is to join a local choir, even if you can't sing a note. At some point if they fancy you , you'll find them under your feet or clinging to your company. Then its just a few moves to starting an affair.

But then its a guy's age. Now I am 56 and in the last 3 years have been seeing young asians. The Chinese girls are fine if you are an older man. They don't ask for a lot, some of them. But then sex can be quite conventional.

There are some 'beasts' on ie, but they have the appetite for it. I have met some but just couldn't bring myself to doing anything with them. they usually can be found in some of the well known adult clubs.

They are out there but the trouble is they get comfortable and complacent and don't make much effort to have a go. they have to be inspired by something different and convincing, anything that avoids the basic mechanics of getting an affair off the ground.

In the end its talk and trickery that gets them interested. So think of reason and accountability. You need to provide both. Tell them what they will be doing but take full responsibility for it. Sometimes if you target and certain type of woman, they recognise themselves in that and that makes them come forward. But you really can't predict what mood they are in or when they are going to set their sites on you.

And its money which makes it all happen. They know most of the guys on the ie site are looking for fairly cheap running costs. this does not impress at all. the women are looking for something that requires a bit of spending, even if its a hotel room for a few hours. So you're right, it can get costly.

So I expect when I am back in the money I may well have another go and hope my luck is in again.

I joined the site - yes, I admit for a conventional relationship. I certainly had my eyes opened!! There are all sorts on there - some not very pleasant at all. I was asked for photo's in sorts of garments - or not. Disgusting requests if I met with them and worse.
Beware if he has a web cam - yuk. There are women out there who enjoy being degraded. Remember that women are free and they can play away without thinking their membership is going to expire at any moment.
I have been lucky and found a nice man who treats me well and is a gentleman. We respect each others situations and I always pay my way. I know Im cheating but I don't feel cheap and nasty.
So gentlemen, I have been complimented on my appearance and yes, I have been told I am too nice to be on there (by a large number) but I did strike lucky.

Hello femaledefender,

I am glad you have chirped up to say your piece. There's probably an equal balance of men and women up to their wickedness.

It sounds like you have found someone and its all worked out quite nicely. I am assuming you have now adopted the role of 'mistress', to a married man? Its a relationship of its own characteristics and not without its own issues and problems.

However I wonder how and why women like yourself could have imagined that the site was somehow not what it says it is. Its quite clear what it caters for, and most people find it by looking specifically for that kind of relationship.

Its probably not the kind of thinking that women usually employ, but it would we good to hear you expand a bit more on your thoughts.

Thanks anyway and good luck with your new 'lifestyle'.