from an American woman's perspective

from an American woman's perspective

I have been a member (free, not paying) for about 4 years now. I usually go to the chatroom which free members can get into once they receive a message from a paying member. I have made many Japanese friends and even dated an American guy I hit it off with from the site for over a year. The past year and a half I have been distance dating a wonderful Japanese man I met on the site. We got engaged on Children's Day (May 5th) during my visit. Most of the American guys (or actually any gaijin men) I see on the site act really poorly by any woman's standards and certainly are not datable material. I would have to agree with one of the guys that posted a comment here that the men who complain probably fall into the category of undesireable. There are many fake profiles I have witnessed first-hand in the chatroom. But that might be common on any site. The thing to remember is that JapanCupid is a forum for meeting people. It is not a mail order bride site. There is never any guarentee anywhere at anytime that a person will find their soulmate and it is even more unlikely on a dating site where distance dating is involved. Just be realistic about it and understand that distance dating is more difficult than most people can imagine.

Pros
A wonderful forum to meet Japanese people and share language exchange. In the chatroom all members can use web cam and mic to prove they are not fake and just have good conversation.

Cons
Since it is open to practically anyone there are some very mean and rude people. And fake profiles occassionally.