Miss Craig

Miss Craig

As with anything else in life where variables are involved, in other words, good vs bad, this site is no exception. I have been on it for a year. Apparently, I had experienced "beginner's luck," as the first man I met within two weeks of signing up was actually what he porported to be; wealthy and truly interested in forging a SB/SD relationship. This involved no more than every other weekend to various locals involving wonderful resorts across the globe. Everything was first class; the transportation, accomodations, wining-dining, etc. He was an older man, not bad looking (Clint Eastwood type) didn't have any weird predelections, was a decent height- had hair, wasn't fat, had a pleasant personality, was intelligent and polite-all good. He alloted me generous sums of cash upon my arrival at the various locations in addition to the monthly stipend he wired to my account. (We're talking annually over 6 figures, btw.) Unfortunately, it did not last "annually," as his wife found out after seven months and put the "squeeze" on him. "Dissapation of marital assets replete with paper trail," is not for the faint of heart. Anyhow, I resumed my membership on SA and proceeded to meet a series of less than stunning individuals. All were frauds, fakes and pretenders. Some were the worst; obnoxious on every level pretending they really had something to offer when they were doing little more than creating the opportunity to have access to beautiful women which would never happen in real life beyond their computer access. Others, were interested in immediate cash "meet-ups"-the sort of exchange that can be otherwise derived from the yellow pages. Then there are those who must have had an abundance of time on their hands, who wish to feed/entertain their particular brand of narcissism. These are the ones who demand volumnous, endless email and photo exchanges-a sort of free supply of attention coming their way, that you eventually recognize is not going to result in any actual meeting, (much less SB/SD exchange.) But, the absolutely worst reprehensible ones are those (again) who waste your time in actually arranging a date. Within minutes of arriving, (Gals, be suspicious of "coffee dates"-not too impressive at the onset, you know?) it's abundantly clear, the guy is so gross he couldn't date his way out of a paper bag and so "not of means" he wouldn't pay a dime to witness Christ ride a bicycle! He certainlyisn't really going to shed cash on a woman and he, in so many words, will indicate this soon enough. While sipping your coffee, you will soon actually perceive his latent anger that he really cannot have you as nothing else has worked out in his life and he may become slightly obnoxious. Again, an example of this site creating another opportunity for "looky-loos" and posers to have their moment in the sun, being graced by a value beyond their reach. Therefore, I caution the women on SA to be judicious in utilizing such a forum and understand that just as with anything else in life where the strata of humanity is involved, there is a possibililty (admittedly, odds are not favorable) to find the "real deal" on SA.

Pros
Possible to find the real deal.

Cons
You can potentially meet;
-Men who do not really have means.
-Men who are not attractive on any level.
-Men who will waste your time.

Thank you Jennifer, who wrote the previous paragraph about her experience with SA. I was so hopeful when I joined (less than two weeks ago). I am a single mother of two young children, with an ex who has made it his life's mission to make me suffer. I am an attractive, educated, intelligent, articulate female. My biggest downfall in life is that I am waaayyy too trusting of people. This has bitten me in the ass before, and apparently it's happening to me via SA! Can someone guide through this process? I get these guys with some GREAT profiles...so eager and willing to help. They appear to be 'all that'. But instead of meeting (granted many of them were not conveniently local to me), they insisited on sharing pics...then more pics...then explicit ones. I've had a few invite me for an IM/Video sexcapade. I have (embarrassed to admit this) taken them to the other side of the moon with phone sex. Of course, they call back and want more. My question is....Where's the goods?!! They ALL want wayyyy too much before they even entertain the other part of the equation. I feel like a complete fool!

Are there any profiles of men that you ladies know of that should be flagged? Or are there just waaaay too many of them? I have about 6 of them that I think should be booted. I'm ready to call them out. I'm not on these sites because I'm a nymph...I'm on here because I need a good man to 'adopt' me and my two kids, so to speak. It just so happens I enjoy sex with the right person too.

So..ladies (and even men, if you're reading this). There's got to be a way to make both parties comfortable without either one giving too much up front.

Btw....any guys who want a 'trial run' to "see if we're compatible/chemistry"....these websites are not for you. Don't taint the pool any further. Just stay at the bars/clubs where you belong.

Jennifer and C, I too have wasted money on SA. I even bought Wade's book lol! I have yet to meet anyone from there and I've been a member for 4 months.. Maybe I don't take as many risks as some, but for the most part, my ad doesn't even have that much exposure (at least they DO let you see the number of profile views)...

I've met a couple of Duds from the sd dot com site though, but the keyword for the day is, "dud"...

I often wonder if there is a forum somewhere for the ladies so that we may help protect ourselves. I can name at least 3 time-wasters. If not, one of us should begin one. If you agree, pls contact me at realhipchick and the yahooooo of all of the coms.. Thank you so much and pls stay safe!

Love ~Kiss

This site, "Seeking Arrangement" is very lame, I can attest. I have been on it a year and have met more than a fair share of these above referenced jokers, none of whom could be regarded as remotely "Quality." Yes, there are mostly plenty of guys on there who want the endless streams of photos and are not even contemplating helping a woman out. Yes, I have encountered several guys who wanted to test the "chemistry" first and yes, I met the ass holes who offered $100 for immediate sex.
I joined this site thinking there would be a "William Randolph Hearst" looking for his "Marion Davies." If I want an ugly, souless creep, then he had better have the understanding that he will have to buy his way into the world of grace and beauty.
I had expected that the men on here understood that concept and would be willing to be a MAN and take care of a woman. This is where all the ugly guys go to meet very beautiful women. There is nothing wrong with this dynamic, except that in actuality, the men on Seeking Arrangement are not willing to compensate for their ugliness (on the inside a well as the outside) and are not seeking anything but what they can get for the least amount of effort. Hello, you idiots-----the women on SA would simply continue to date all the gorgeous hot narcissists, except those are the ones who are broke. A real insult to my intelligence is to consider dating an ugly guy who is as selfesh as a good looking one!
My last encounter with one of these idiots brought out yet another example of how this site does not have members who represent it's concept; I asked the guy why HE was on SA and he said because there, he gets to meet "beautiful women who are tired of meeting 'losers.' -Where a man actually has a job." Hello???? SA, I thought, wasn't a duplicate of it's mainstream cousin, "Match.com." I thought this was the site where you meet a man who wants to take care of a woman, in exchange for being with a women who is beautiful. This site has been a huge dissappointment and a waste of my time.
I have a friend who was introduced to a man last year who is mega wealthy. Her life changed overnight, from struggling with bills to living in a $10 million dollar home in Brentwood with a big sparkler on her finger. And to top it off-he's actually NICE! She met him the old fashioned way; introduced by her neighbor. So, gals, network amongst your friends-"SA is BS!"

I am disgusted by Seeking Arrangement. the men on there who think it's a cheap way to hire call girls without having to pay the madame's cut. Yes, I have a long list of the male offenders-abusers on there. We should DEFINITELY "out" them, so the other women trying to survive in this world don't have to waste their time with them!

OP - right on! As with the respondents.

Site is full of BS creepy sexually screwed up weirdos for the most part. One called and proceeded to tell me in graphic detail what he wanted to do to me. Let's just say I was sickened and changed my number post haste. I had not yet spoken to him save a few polite emails back and forth.

I went out with one fellow to an upscale restaurant. He answered all of the (I lost count at 20) text messages and calls during dinner. I asked if he would like me to leave the two of them (his phone and he) alone. He looked at me as if shocked and asked if I thought it was rude? I asked if I needed to truly qualify that with an answer. He replied that it was rude not to reply to a tm or call immediately. I excused myself and left.

I then received a tm from this person saying he is a nice guy with a big dick. I did not respond.

He told me all about his sexual hangups within the first half hour of dinner. How he was afraid to ask his wife for sex. I sat there in shock wondering if money makes idiots and self entitled dorks out of men. He truly put the A in sshole

nicely said!