I've been using Illicit Encounters for over 3 years, I have also used dozens of other dating sites. In fact I met my first and second wife on dating sites and use Illicit Encounters to look for discreet affairs.
Like the others I have found some of the 'issues' they described but lets be realistic here, you get scammers, 'professionals' on ALL dating sites, I found that if I reported these people to the admin of Illicit Encounters, they dealt with them pretty quickly - it is not in their interest to have these people on their site after all and it's bad for business.
The site is expensive I guess - it really is relative. How much do you value being able to arrange a discreet affair in privacy and in your own time ? Sure I could go to a pub, club but where am I going to find the time to crawl dozens of venues, potentially exposing myself in public ? Like my title, having an affair and keeping it discreet is not cheap so the price of the membership really is almost irrelevant if you get what you are looking for. The price is high to keep male / female ratio balanced and it is also a kind of commitment barrier, you are not going to fork out that money if you are going to be a tyre kicker. Also people forget there is the element of 'Prestige' - it is a premium site ... Just because you cannot afford a Ferrari, does not then make Ferrari a crap car etc - talk about sour grapes
People will always complain and make excuses or blame the service for their own failures, I mean if you going on with a username like 'Cl*t Licker' - do you really expect women to respond to you ? Some people are just stupid and no matter how much they pay, they will still fail.
I won't recommend this to friends/family - people that tick that, ummm yeah right. I would recommend it to a stranger anonymously however with a bit of advice...
Don't be naive, people are never who they seem to be, especially online.
Take things slow.
Be careful about your identity until you are sure and ready to meet someone face to face.
Report the scammers.
Don't be a cheap skate.
Premium site, good female to male ratio
Lots of membership options
New features and updates frequently - keeps site fresh and exciting.
Possibly Price but if you make the effort, you shouldn't have to pay for a long membership.
Not easy - but then if something was too easy, it probably isn't worth keeping